post-divorce

Someday, one of your friends is gonna get divorced, it’s gonna happen, and they’re gonna tell you. Don’t go, ‘ohhhh I’m sorry.’
That’s a stupid thing to say. First of all you’re making ’em feel bad for being really happy, which isn’t fair.
And second of all: divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true, because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce.
It’s really that simple.
–┬áLouis CK

I posted this on my Facebook the other day, a couple of days after the final hearing. I think it’s hard for people to understand that, most of the time, a person going through a divorce is probably significantly happier than you’d think. My response to someone was that, if you’ve never been through it, it’s tough to imagine how someone in that situation would feel. This about sums it up.

The details of what happened don’t matter, really. People grow apart. We started dating when I was young and fresh out of an abusive relationship. I’ll be 30 this year, I’ve grown up, I got my degree, went through three crappy jobs to get where I am now. Sometimes things change.

I went to my first comic con and met two actors I love. I’m heading to Chicago soon for a little getaway (and my first Ikea trip!). I’m moving in October, getting my first dog, turning 30 in November. It’s almost fall, my favorite time of year. I’m focusing on myself and working on being a better friend and a better person.

It being September 1st (which is always fall to me, no matter if it’s in the high 80s this week) is rather serendipitous for this. Fall is my favorite time of year, and always has been a sign of change, a sign of new things, a sign of good things to come. I think that’s hard for some people to imagine, since spring has always been the quintessential time of rebirth, and fall is when everything dies. But, to me…it’s a sign of hope.

knc_dcphoto via Discover Kalamazoo

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